Are You a Superhero, Savior or Saved … in Love?

In all the relationships of your life you will find that you commonly take on one of these roles ~ Superhero, Savior or Saved. One of these, the Superhero, will have you create a relationship as a powerful, loving fortress of trust and assurance, while the other two create endless dips and falls.

Do you want to be the Superhero ..? Well, being a Superhero does not mean flying around town, putting out fires for your   mate and then sweeping them off to safety. Being a Superhero means being an inspirer and an encourager, as opposed to being a savior and a slave.

Someone being a savior, swoops in for the rescue. (You already know if this one has your name on it) When your mate shares an idea with you is the next thing you say ‘Honey .. your idea is amazing, now I’ll take over for you and run with it.” It’s the same thing when they have a problem. Your partner shares a struggle or a little venting and you’re right there with the ‘answer’ or fixing it for them.  You may not mean to, but what you’re saying to your mate is ‘I’m not sure you’re capable.’ .. You’re saying, ‘You need me!’. You may even be saying ‘I need you, to need me.’

Once you become a savior it’s not long before you become a slave, not only to your partner but to your story of the role you’ve created. That’s right .. You created it! Of course you’ll tell yourself .. ‘This is who I am … I take care of things for others because they need me’.  You become more of a slave because now the ‘saving’ is expected of you.  This goes for family, friends and even business relationships.

Now if you read the above and you’re the one pointing and saying .. ‘Oh .. I know who that is .. they’re always taking over, always in my business!’ Well, here’s the thing-  A savior can’t save someone who doesn’t need, want or allow saving. And here’s the amazing part, whatever your role, you can change it and it only takes YOU to make it work.

Championing for others to do for themselves is being a Superhero.  Cheering them on, encouraging and lending support says, “I believe in you … I know you can do it!” and “I see the Superhero in you.” Owning your spirit, your own purpose and sharing it says “I’ve got this and I love your support! Thank you for encouraging me!”

This is the spirit of being a Superhero and that’s where the greater love is ~ Being the Superhero and believing others are a Superhero in their life too~!

Hugs~!

Talesha & Gary

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